Divorce stinks. It tears you apart and rips you into nothing. At times it feels as if you are going to burn to nothing and then at others as if you are downing in the deepest well known to man. It destroys you emotional, spiritually, physically, and financially. Within all the separation and heartache we often forget that the true victims are the children that are often silently effected. They are powerless and often absorb all the feelings and emotions that are passed between the adults closest to them. All to often they completely blame themselves for their families breaking apart.
All of these feeling are amplified and complicated in LDS or Mormon families where children are taught that families are forever. The divorce no longer impacts this childhood but instead impacts the eternities. This shakes their very moral compass as they no longer know where they fit into an eternal scheme of things. They question every principle they have been taught.
The magic of this day was watching one of my daughters speak in our ward Sacrament meeting this morning. To see her smiling and teaching the principles that she had let go of not so long ago. Watching my daughter develop her own testimony and belief system over the last little while has given me hope that all my children will be able to overcome the feelings and insecurities they have developed in this process of divorce. My most sincere prayer is that my children may have the opportunity to live healthy lives and have healthy relationships with others. Today was the first time I could see that hope become a possibility.
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