Selfless Identity

There is a bit of magic in the watching of those you care for fall in and out of love. I have coming to understand that I would prefer to feel heartache and illness than to witness those I care for experience it. 

There was a talk in the last general conference that spoke on being at the foot of another's cross when you are not on your own person cross. (I can't find it, but I am sure I didn't imagine it :) At the time the thought of that felt absolutely overwhelming. I am so tired of feeling pain and stress. I just wanted to run from it and never look back. I now understand the strength that is bought into your life when you support others in need. It is easy to love another when they have loved you so kindly.  It is easy to support another, when Christ has so easily supported me. Selflessness and service are key to understanding who we are and who Christ would have us become.  Christ gave his whole life for us.  He was selfless, humble, and charitable.  If our goal is to be like Him, we must learn to give ourselves to those around us selflessly without losing our identity. 

So how do we lose ourselves without losing our identity?